yes i dnt want her living with us because she doesnt mind her own business and she just gets on my kast nerve but the thing is that my husband doesnt want to leave her beacuse she cant pay the rent by her own but she has two more a daughter and a son and the daughter s married to and the son is not and he told her to go to her other son but she doesnt want to leve her daugter wat should i do shes very nasty i dnt want her im my house and all she does is just talk crap about me i want to get rid of her asap i want her to leave its incredible what i live through every single day of my life!!! im tired of her we dnt even talk to each others that how bad it is. that lady s so nasty that she left dirty dishes from saturday to a thursday of the other week and thats just a little version please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I am in the same boat. I am waiting for her useless, selfish, guilt-tripping behind to get section 8. She doesn't wash dishes, she does not cooking, barely any cleaning, all she does is waste money on everything for herself, except groceries, which I pay for, meanwhile her son makes the car payments, which SHE drives the car, pays for car repairs, which she took money out of a lawsuit winnings they had together, out of HIS HALF to repair it, etc. My poor hunny is over $30,000 in debt from school, too. When that *&%$^ finally gets out, it w ill be the happiest day of my life. This is a situation where it's appropriate to say to your husband:
"Either your mother goes, or I go"
You can go and live with your parents for a while, and you can - from a distance - observe what true colors your husband is made out of.
Your mother-in-law, no matter how poor or frail, has no right to intrude upon your married life, and generosity to only spew filth and tension between you and your spouse. This isn't right.
Your marriage comes first, or not at all.
It's up to your husband.
You need to sit your husband down and explain to him about how you are feeling. How your marriage is in trouble due to her being there. You married him not him and his mother. Yes you know that you should try to get along with her but you shouldn't have to deal with the derogatory things she has to about you. She has 2 other kids that can step up to the plate you guys are not the only sourceI would ask her to leave and if she didn't I would start being rude. I would definitely stop cleaning up after her.Tell your husband to grow a pair.
Spouses come BEFORE the parents.
Either he makes other arrangements for his nasty mom or you leave.
Good luck.Tell your spouse that either you or your mother-in-law is leaving and to decide now which one it's going to be.in my case, i told my husband if he wants to live with his mom then go and ill live my life without him.tell your husband that you are supposed to come first in his life. Explain to him that one of you has to go! Make arrangements for the mother to go live some place else even if you and your husband have to pay for it. It's your house so just kick her out.You need to let your husband know how you really feel. Try not to be nasty about it, remember this is his mother and he loves her. Explain the tension it is creating in the house and between the two of you. I'm sure you and your husband both want to have a happy marriage and I'm sure you and your hhusband would love for you both to have a great relationship with your MIL, so the best is for her to be removed from the living situation. You can find an apartment or small house to help her rent out that is not to far from family. That way she still has her family close and has the financial help. You husband will appreciate the fact that you don't want to completly get rid of her, but just have her not intreuding in your marriage. I'm guessing sex can't be that great having to always watch out for the peering eyes and ears of good old mom, so your husband should fully undertstand when you mention this.Every marriage needs to have some wild sex all over the house at all times of the day. shoot her,,,or try playing real loud music all the time, hollaring & screaming at each other, buy NO food, let her walk in on you 2 having sex all the time, bring some huge humping dog home & keep in the house#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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